today is a day that gives us, children of our mothers, an opportunity for reflection. this does not mean that we don’t contemplate about these things on any given day – i really don’t on most days but i do find myself thinking about it from time to time, mostly in passing.
my mother, just like Kevin Durant said in his NBA MVP award acceptance speech, is the real MVP. i feel that i got the shots in life that i deserved because my mother set me up well for it – she made her sacrifices, leaving little for herself and dug herself deep into a lot of financially compromising decisions to give us the best possible chances to live a good life. it took a lot of discipline to deprive herself of a lot of comforts to give us the basics, and gave up a little more to extend a few luxuries here and there.
i wouldn’t know if this was the case for other children, but to be honest, when i got to that point where i felt a little accomplished enough to feel empowered to start living my life in my own terms, i made the mistake of not treating her right. i became somewhat overly assertive and defensive at different points in time. i began to be more critical and in some case outright harsh. disrespectful even. at this point, i knew i was ready to just live on my own and truly in my own terms, not even thinking about what it means for her or what problems living on her own may present.
i guess what sorted everything out in the end was having a family that cared to listen to both sides and work it out together. we talked and sorted things out – cleared up expectations and set boundaries. things got better, and though other rough patches showed up after i got married, the worst was through and we just rolled with the punches and got them sorted out.
i’ve been blessed to have had a lot of loving mother figures in my life, and while i’m thankful for having them at various points that i needed them, i will never be more thankful for what my mother has done for us, for all the physical and emotional pain that she has endured, which can only be driven by love. i pray that i am able to show that love and reflect it back, even if thousands of miles away separate us physically now.
happy mother’s day mom. you the real MVP.